I am always surprised when I hear about how controversial it is to pull kids out of school for a family vacation. I understand the importance of good school attendance, and maybe my view of school is a little different from someone who had to work hard to succeed (a challenge I wish I had been given!), but I feel like family vacations are just so necessary on so many levels.
Life today is so fast paced and full of stress. It isn’t unusual for parents to work more than 8 hours, and then come home and have emails and phone calls to catch up on. Kids even have their own busy little lives, with lessons and practices and all sorts of extracurriculars that have become almost a requirement of childhood. So for a family to be able to get away and enjoy some quality time together is, in my opinion, invaluable.
And here’s the thing, while kids may not be sitting in a desk and learning the required curriculum, they are definitely still learning. There are so many new experiences that ask young brains to adapt, and quickly. They meet new people, gain new social skills, and learn how to adapt to a new environment. It makes them malleable. Kids brains need novelty and fun, and what’s a better to way to get those things than a vacation?
And the thing is, we do so much learning when we’re not at home. But it’s natural learning, which I think sticks in children’s brains much better than rote learning or learning something abstractly. Time and money always come up while travelling, and it’s easy to involve kids with keeping to a schedule and budget. When you visit a new locale, discussions about geography and climate and even the animals come up. For instance, we’re seeing lots of lizards that we just don’t find back home. And, we had a visit from some bird friends which fascinated Kaleb.
He sat and watched them until they were out of sight, and noticed that they seemed to be eating. “They’re probably going to look for a little lizard,” he concluded as they walked away. Just having that momentary relationship with a creature he wouldn’t normally see is so great. He very rarely watches the birds at home, but because these birds were different from the cardinals and doves and blue jays he’s used to seeing, they held his attention and he experienced a connection with the natural world he wouldn’t have had ordinarily.
My son has been in swimming lessons since he was 2, and we do make an effort to go to the pool often, but there is a big difference between a half hour trip to a pool and a day spent going in and out of it. He has always been confident in water, but there’s something about being able to get a full day in the pool in that really pushes swimming skills along! He was diving in the 4 ft water for his dive sticks! I am a huge believer in kids needing to know how to swim and how to be safe around water, and there is no better way than just being around it.
And then, if you have a child like mine, you just may bust out the homework. When we found out that we’d be homeschooling Kaleb I ordered Beast Academy for him after hearing amazing things about it. It came the day before we left for vacation and Kaleb was so excited because, “Mom, we can bring it with us!!” So we did. Bringing it out meant a few more minutes of sunshine and relative relaxation for me, so hey, do what you have to do, right?
‘Cause I mean, if you’re going to do math, why not do it by a pool surrounded by palm trees? And, when you’re in a fun atmosphere, it makes learning so much more fun! We were learning about angles, and since we didn’t have much to work with, decided we could make angles with our bodies.
Kids may not remember the vacations you bring them on when they’re young, but it sets a foundation for them for the rest of their lives. And the more often kids get brought places, the easier it is to bring them places. Again, Kaleb received compliments on his behaviour. He just can’t be cranky when there’s so much novel fun around!